Yesterday I went to my house and jr was there. We talked. I took some stuff home...he video taped it all. He told me that the cops had just left. I asked why - he said to report what all I had done to the house. (I took stuff to moms on Sunday - while we're camping there). When I went to the master bathroom - he had pulled out a bunch of stuff from his closet and just trashed his bathroom.
But - we talked. He talked and talked and talked - but never said anything truthful. I said "I'm not taping us - you can tell the truth." but he never did.
So - today I show up to get stuff out of the bedroom. He was talking with someone in there quietly. He wouldn't open the bedroom door. I was calm - knocking asking to be let inside. HE CALLED THE COPS ON ME!!!
So I left the house to wait on the officer. I am sooo glad it was a different officer. This one didnt know my STBFS by name. This one acted human. This one treated me with respect.
But jr told the cop that he was fearful of me and I should have called to let him know I was coming. Sigh. I would go on about all of it...but I'm tired of thinking about it.
Suffice it to say, I told him I'd be home tonight. And tomorrow...and the next day...and the next and he could just expect me from then on.
Tuesday, June 29, 2010
Friday, June 25, 2010
Got a Visit from My Father In Law Today
Well, took the car to the shop. The same shop that fixed it last time - for the same problem. Of course, it wasn't THEIR fault...anyway, was coming home in a bad mood after hearing that I would need to pay $600 more....when what do I see as I turn the corner on my street?
My Father in Law walking up my driveway. I wasn't in the right mood to start with I really didn't need this...
So, I pull in the driveway and he comes back down from the front door.
He says "Anyway I can get my stuff and we forget this lawsuit?"
I said "That junk is under a restraining order"
We went back and forth - him saying it was his stuff and my rebutting with 'then why has it been in my garage for 5 yrs? (we've only lived here 5 yrs - we've had most of what he CLAIMS is all his for ages before that).
It ended with my telling him to leave before I had to call the police. So he left.
I have a message on my machine from Dallas saying "Sorry, I didn't think that all would happen. I just thought you might be out garage saling and our son would be home alone for Dad to talk to..."
As if THAT would have been ok with me.
and on that message - you can hear my FIL in the background getting his attention - to not say things like that.
BIG SIGH!
My Father in Law walking up my driveway. I wasn't in the right mood to start with I really didn't need this...
So, I pull in the driveway and he comes back down from the front door.
He says "Anyway I can get my stuff and we forget this lawsuit?"
I said "That junk is under a restraining order"
We went back and forth - him saying it was his stuff and my rebutting with 'then why has it been in my garage for 5 yrs? (we've only lived here 5 yrs - we've had most of what he CLAIMS is all his for ages before that).
It ended with my telling him to leave before I had to call the police. So he left.
I have a message on my machine from Dallas saying "Sorry, I didn't think that all would happen. I just thought you might be out garage saling and our son would be home alone for Dad to talk to..."
As if THAT would have been ok with me.
and on that message - you can hear my FIL in the background getting his attention - to not say things like that.
BIG SIGH!
Thursday, June 24, 2010
Today has been one of those days. Busy, picking up the kids that spent the night at their cousins house after Vacation Bible School, waiting around to pick up the one kid that went to Sports camp, run home, make/eat lunch, put the youngest to bed because she obviously didn't get enough sleep, then back to the final night of VBS, then to the library to drop off books.
While waiting for Sports camp to be over my STBFS called and accused me of going out last night since I had no kids. SIGH. It was nice having the house to myself but I was home by 10:30. I didn't tell him that - I also didn't tell him it was none of his business.
We finally got home to stay at almost 10 pm. But my youngest wanted to call her dad to let him know that she had lost a tooth. I dial the number hoping he won't want to speak to me. They talk - and she is answering questions right and left about where she was last night.
Then my oldest got on the phone and he started answering rapidfire questions. Wanting to know where I was last night.
My STBFS and his family are up to something. Some new evil legal thing is being plotted against me all because I don't want to be married to an abusive alcoholic.
While waiting for Sports camp to be over my STBFS called and accused me of going out last night since I had no kids. SIGH. It was nice having the house to myself but I was home by 10:30. I didn't tell him that - I also didn't tell him it was none of his business.
We finally got home to stay at almost 10 pm. But my youngest wanted to call her dad to let him know that she had lost a tooth. I dial the number hoping he won't want to speak to me. They talk - and she is answering questions right and left about where she was last night.
Then my oldest got on the phone and he started answering rapidfire questions. Wanting to know where I was last night.
My STBFS and his family are up to something. Some new evil legal thing is being plotted against me all because I don't want to be married to an abusive alcoholic.
Yesterday was a looooonnnnggg day...
I was busy with the kids all day and didn't get to tell you the news. So, depending on my STBFS I may just have a second posting today. But without further ado - let me tell you the news from yesterday.
Yesterday my Mom lets me know that there is a message on her answering machine telling her that I had demanded the foodstamp card (the one he has been using to feed himself and his wealthy parents - instead of his children) but that he won't give it to me because 'she is bad at handling money'. Which is a lie. When I was in charge of paying the bills around here - we NEVER had the lights or water shut off - he cannot say the same thing when he took it over. As a matter of fact - 3 times water shut off, 1 time lights shut off - and about 6 more times for the lights it came down to the wire of him running out and paying them hours before shut off.
Now - guess who is writing his bills for him. Go ahead guess. He is under an order that would hold him in contempt if he doesn't pay...so guess....Thats right! His Mommy! She uses his account - and pays them all.
Yesterday my Mom lets me know that there is a message on her answering machine telling her that I had demanded the foodstamp card (the one he has been using to feed himself and his wealthy parents - instead of his children) but that he won't give it to me because 'she is bad at handling money'. Which is a lie. When I was in charge of paying the bills around here - we NEVER had the lights or water shut off - he cannot say the same thing when he took it over. As a matter of fact - 3 times water shut off, 1 time lights shut off - and about 6 more times for the lights it came down to the wire of him running out and paying them hours before shut off.
Now - guess who is writing his bills for him. Go ahead guess. He is under an order that would hold him in contempt if he doesn't pay...so guess....Thats right! His Mommy! She uses his account - and pays them all.
Tuesday, June 22, 2010
My FIL IS Suing Me - I got the paperwork
Ok...a few weeks back my FIL decided he needed to get here and get all of his sons 'assets' he could so he called wanting "HIS" woodchipper and lawnmower. Well, these 2 items have been in my garage for a LLLLOOONNNNGGGG time. The lawnmower -since we moved in and the woodchipper for at least 2 yrs. So I have serious doubts that they are his - and there is a restraining order on Dallas to not remove anything from the house. So, I had to refuse.
Flashback to when Dallas and I were dating - a girl came forward claiming her child was his - looked about right - right down to the cleft in her chin. And my FIL and Dallas started the process of moving his assets around...when the paperwork came back that she wasn't his.
Flashback again to when my FIL was sued for sleeping with a subordinate
http://www.enquirer.com/editions/2004/10/07/loc_loc1a1powers.html
he told me - while denying the truth of the case - that THAT is why his house and all his assets were in his wife's name - so that he couldn't lose any of it...
Ok - back to the present. The paperwork says that things in my garage (that have been growing mold) are HIS. The woodchipper, both lawnmowers, various (read-ALL) powertools and hand tools, and refridgerator are all his. And that since I denied him of his possessions his business has lost money. He owns rental properties!!!! He owns lawnmowers to mow them!!! The trees on the properties I can count on 1 hand - and are too small to need a chipper!!! The refridgerator in the garage was bought when we lived in Kettering - and they didn't want to move upstairs (plus my soon to be former spouse) wanted a place to keep beer cold in the garage. AND as I said - it is growing mold!!! My STBFS unplugged it during one of those times he was trying to convince me he was going sober...but left something in the freezer. You open it - it smells of death or at least something that would kill you.
So - he came up with $6200. He wants the return of all these things (which aren't his) AND the money.
Talk about vindictive...
Flashback to when Dallas and I were dating - a girl came forward claiming her child was his - looked about right - right down to the cleft in her chin. And my FIL and Dallas started the process of moving his assets around...when the paperwork came back that she wasn't his.
Flashback again to when my FIL was sued for sleeping with a subordinate
http://www.enquirer.com/editions/2004/10/07/loc_loc1a1powers.html
he told me - while denying the truth of the case - that THAT is why his house and all his assets were in his wife's name - so that he couldn't lose any of it...
Ok - back to the present. The paperwork says that things in my garage (that have been growing mold) are HIS. The woodchipper, both lawnmowers, various (read-ALL) powertools and hand tools, and refridgerator are all his. And that since I denied him of his possessions his business has lost money. He owns rental properties!!!! He owns lawnmowers to mow them!!! The trees on the properties I can count on 1 hand - and are too small to need a chipper!!! The refridgerator in the garage was bought when we lived in Kettering - and they didn't want to move upstairs (plus my soon to be former spouse) wanted a place to keep beer cold in the garage. AND as I said - it is growing mold!!! My STBFS unplugged it during one of those times he was trying to convince me he was going sober...but left something in the freezer. You open it - it smells of death or at least something that would kill you.
So - he came up with $6200. He wants the return of all these things (which aren't his) AND the money.
Talk about vindictive...
Monday, June 21, 2010
Let's Make a Deal!
Popular game show from days gone by? or game my soon to be former spouse and his family want to play now?
Yep, you guessed it. They are wanting to make a deal. However, it isn't one that is in my favor. I didn't get all the details because I am unwilling to negotiate with terrorists - oops I mean, the people who treat me like I'm the enemy just because I no longer want to associate myself with them.
I am pretty sure it comes down to A. Dallas seeing the kids - which lends to him taking the kids and keeping them in exchange for B. my getting the foodstamp card - but my FIL still suing me for the crap thats been in my garage for going on 2 yrs, which may or may not be my STBFS (Soon to be former spouse).
So...NO Deal!!! I'll keep opening cases Howie.
Yep, you guessed it. They are wanting to make a deal. However, it isn't one that is in my favor. I didn't get all the details because I am unwilling to negotiate with terrorists - oops I mean, the people who treat me like I'm the enemy just because I no longer want to associate myself with them.
I am pretty sure it comes down to A. Dallas seeing the kids - which lends to him taking the kids and keeping them in exchange for B. my getting the foodstamp card - but my FIL still suing me for the crap thats been in my garage for going on 2 yrs, which may or may not be my STBFS (Soon to be former spouse).
So...NO Deal!!! I'll keep opening cases Howie.
Sunday, June 20, 2010
Father's Day
Ok - first off, it was my every hope that Dallas would take the kids this weekend and have a good bonding time with them. Then his dad filed a lawsuit against me and I called my lawyers office and they told me that since they (my soon to be former spouse and his family) are starting in with playing dirty - that I should be extra cautious. My inlaws have properties in other states and while Dallas and I both have equal custody - they could hightail it out of town and I won't have much of any recourse.
So...this is the 2nd Father's Day in a row that I've denied Dallas access to the kids.
But - I had the kids call him first thing this morning. He asked to talk to me - so I got on the phone. I forget what made me bring it up but I informed him that I had to buy Dallas III a new pair of jeans yesterday. He told me that I should have had him buy them when he bought groceries from Meijer (a super store like Walmart) when he spent $300. Well - 1. the groceries came to $242.xx not $300 - so lets keep our facts straight and 2. He used a foodstamp GC that brought his out of pocket total down to $101.50.
So, I got mad. I got incensed. I told him that I wanted that foodstamp card, that it was wrong for him to have it since he applied for it while we've not lived together...but he used us as his feeding his family of 5. I told him that if I don't get it I will go downtown and apply for my own foodstamp card - and when they tell me that I am already in their system I will explain in detail how Dallas has frauded their system and only once has our children benefited from it in all the months he has had the card.
Instead - he buys groceries for himself and his parents - who are millionaires. Nice, huh?
Writing it out here I'm getting a little ticked off again. What he has done is so wrong. My parents have fed us week after week - while he has the government feeding him and his wealthy parents. It absolutely makes me sick.
So...this is the 2nd Father's Day in a row that I've denied Dallas access to the kids.
But - I had the kids call him first thing this morning. He asked to talk to me - so I got on the phone. I forget what made me bring it up but I informed him that I had to buy Dallas III a new pair of jeans yesterday. He told me that I should have had him buy them when he bought groceries from Meijer (a super store like Walmart) when he spent $300. Well - 1. the groceries came to $242.xx not $300 - so lets keep our facts straight and 2. He used a foodstamp GC that brought his out of pocket total down to $101.50.
So, I got mad. I got incensed. I told him that I wanted that foodstamp card, that it was wrong for him to have it since he applied for it while we've not lived together...but he used us as his feeding his family of 5. I told him that if I don't get it I will go downtown and apply for my own foodstamp card - and when they tell me that I am already in their system I will explain in detail how Dallas has frauded their system and only once has our children benefited from it in all the months he has had the card.
Instead - he buys groceries for himself and his parents - who are millionaires. Nice, huh?
Writing it out here I'm getting a little ticked off again. What he has done is so wrong. My parents have fed us week after week - while he has the government feeding him and his wealthy parents. It absolutely makes me sick.
Saturday, June 19, 2010
I'm Going thru the Big D from a guy named Dallas...
My name is Evelyn. I'm a typical housewife, I guess. In a typical (I guess) marriage. We have 3 great kids. A son who is 13, and daughters who are 7 and 6. My husband is Dallas. Dallas can charm your socks off. He can convince an artic explorer he needs an air conditioning unit. You'd think with that kind of talent - he'd sell cars or something where the commission would be high. You'd be wrong. You see, Dallas likes to wake up in the morning and have a beer. Then another and another. In a typical day Dallas will drink at least a 6 pack - sometimes alot more - but usually about 8 beers before he crashes into bed. Dallas is a high functioning drunk. Most people have no idea what he does. He drinks and drives and in the past 5 yrs has only been pulled over once for weaving. That time he refused a breath alyzer (sp) test and spent the night in jail. That was on the advice of his dad - attorney and disgraced judge Dallas Sr. - who has told him to never blow if he is pulled over...never leave a mark if you hit your wife...and if you are going to cheat on your wife - be sure to do it at least 30 miles away.
I bet you are wondering why I want to leave this family? LOL.
We have been married 13 yrs now. For 13 yrs I have been controlled. Controlled by not having my own way of earning money. By not having my name on any accounts. By not having my own car - etc.
I filed for divorce less than a month ago - (we've lived apart now for over a year) - ready to go on this journey with me? Drama by drama - detailing each saga for your amusement and hopefully edification...
I bet you are wondering why I want to leave this family? LOL.
We have been married 13 yrs now. For 13 yrs I have been controlled. Controlled by not having my own way of earning money. By not having my name on any accounts. By not having my own car - etc.
I filed for divorce less than a month ago - (we've lived apart now for over a year) - ready to go on this journey with me? Drama by drama - detailing each saga for your amusement and hopefully edification...
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