He wants custody of the kids...

...but the visitation schedule is already too much for him and he hasn't even had his first visit.

My husband is challenging me as a fit mom (I have taught them at home since birth) based on...well, nothing. Anyway, I have won temporary sole custody of our three kids. Once I got the notice I called and tried to arrange for his first visit. He is supposed to get them every Wed. night from 6-9. I offered to let him have them overnight.

Today he called and said he just now got the schedule in the mail. (Not my fault he doesn't check his mailbox) And that he couldn't possibly take them this Wed. (tomorrow) could he have them tonight? Uh, no. I need more notice than a few hours, thank you. How about Thurs? Sorry, our son has a Constitution class that has already been paid for - he goes every Thurs night for 12 weeks.

And kids schedules have priority over all else.

So...I'll have them ready tomorrow night - just in case he shows up for them - if they aren't ready when he is supposed to have them - I could be held in contempt of court. I do not contempt the court... :)

What kills me - is he wants custody -he complains he never gets to see them...and when the opportunity shows itself, he can't arrange it.

...

The next day - after he called the cops on me for no reason, I brought my mom with me to the house to get more of my stuff - and more of the kids things. He wasn't home at first. When he came home - he was normal again, just like he was on Monday. He was normal before he even knew my mom was there helping me. Which makes me further believe that he must have been high on Tuesday to call the cops like he did.

Anyway, my mom gave her a piece of her mind. And if you knew my mom you would know that she did it respectfully and almost gently...all the while I kept packing up my things. Dallas even helped me carry things out to the car with my Mom watching.

Wednesday, I got the court order - I have temporary custody of the kids - and Dallas gets to have visitation rights. Which means every Wed from 6-9 the kids are his - and every other weekend. I told him we can be flexible. Then - get this, he asked if he and I get a date night together.

NO.
Why not?
Are you kidding? You called the cops on me for no reason.
Lets put the past behind us.
You are counter suing me for divorce - even if I dropped it we are still getting divorced.
I only did that because my lawyer told me to...

*click*

Alot has been going on...

Yesterday I went to my house and jr was there. We talked. I took some stuff home...he video taped it all. He told me that the cops had just left. I asked why - he said to report what all I had done to the house. (I took stuff to moms on Sunday - while we're camping there). When I went to the master bathroom - he had pulled out a bunch of stuff from his closet and just trashed his bathroom.

But - we talked. He talked and talked and talked - but never said anything truthful. I said "I'm not taping us - you can tell the truth." but he never did.

So - today I show up to get stuff out of the bedroom. He was talking with someone in there quietly. He wouldn't open the bedroom door. I was calm - knocking asking to be let inside. HE CALLED THE COPS ON ME!!!

So I left the house to wait on the officer. I am sooo glad it was a different officer. This one didnt know my STBFS by name. This one acted human. This one treated me with respect.

But jr told the cop that he was fearful of me and I should have called to let him know I was coming. Sigh. I would go on about all of it...but I'm tired of thinking about it.

Suffice it to say, I told him I'd be home tonight. And tomorrow...and the next day...and the next and he could just expect me from then on.

Got a Visit from My Father In Law Today

Well, took the car to the shop. The same shop that fixed it last time - for the same problem. Of course, it wasn't THEIR fault...anyway, was coming home in a bad mood after hearing that I would need to pay $600 more....when what do I see as I turn the corner on my street?

My Father in Law walking up my driveway. I wasn't in the right mood to start with I really didn't need this...

So, I pull in the driveway and he comes back down from the front door.

He says "Anyway I can get my stuff and we forget this lawsuit?"

I said "That junk is under a restraining order"

We went back and forth - him saying it was his stuff and my rebutting with 'then why has it been in my garage for 5 yrs? (we've only lived here 5 yrs - we've had most of what he CLAIMS is all his for ages before that).

It ended with my telling him to leave before I had to call the police. So he left.

I have a message on my machine from Dallas saying "Sorry, I didn't think that all would happen. I just thought you might be out garage saling and our son would be home alone for Dad to talk to..."

As if THAT would have been ok with me.

and on that message - you can hear my FIL in the background getting his attention - to not say things like that.

BIG SIGH!

Today has been one of those days. Busy, picking up the kids that spent the night at their cousins house after Vacation Bible School, waiting around to pick up the one kid that went to Sports camp, run home, make/eat lunch, put the youngest to bed because she obviously didn't get enough sleep, then back to the final night of VBS, then to the library to drop off books.

While waiting for Sports camp to be over my STBFS called and accused me of going out last night since I had no kids. SIGH. It was nice having the house to myself but I was home by 10:30. I didn't tell him that - I also didn't tell him it was none of his business.

We finally got home to stay at almost 10 pm. But my youngest wanted to call her dad to let him know that she had lost a tooth. I dial the number hoping he won't want to speak to me. They talk - and she is answering questions right and left about where she was last night.

Then my oldest got on the phone and he started answering rapidfire questions. Wanting to know where I was last night.

My STBFS and his family are up to something. Some new evil legal thing is being plotted against me all because I don't want to be married to an abusive alcoholic.