http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3Ue5wBkntJs&feature=related
The last tongue-lashing she gives - she could give to Dallas, it'd fit him to a tee.
Friday, September 10, 2010
Tuesday, September 7, 2010
So - my kids were to spend the weekend and the holiday with their dad this past weekend. Great. This time I made certain they all had their church clothes so that their dad would have no excuse to keep them home. All's good right?
Ok - you know what's coming.
But first - Friday night. 11:38 - I'm in bed already...and the phone rings. It's Dallas and Holly. Holly is bawling her eyes out saying "I want to come home, Daddy is mean!" And Dallas wanted me to come get her. I told him - "If I come to get Holly I am taking them all"
He told me we don't live in a gestapo - in other words, the visitation order doesn't have to be followed exactly. Yeah - thats true. It doesn't. But on the points where we both don't agree to deviate - then yeah, it's law.
So, Holly stayed.
Saturday was uneventful and I didn't call because I didn't want to upset their visit in any way.
Sunday I expected to see the kids at church. Afterall, it was Teen Takeover Day - in other words the teens (our sons age) were taking over the responsibilities at church. Also, all 3 kids wanted to see Todd Bennick - motorcross guy - jump over our pastor standing on a bus. Scarey. Cool. Not to mention - last week Dallas complained when the girls didn't have church clothes - this time they had them. So I was saddened when I realized the kids weren't at church.
When I got home I called Dallas to find out who was sick. I was told "I kept telling them to go to bed last night if they wanted to go to church in the morning, but they just wanted to play outside with their friends" How late? After midnight. Why? "Well, Sandy, Paula and Debbie were letting their kids stay out so they wanted to too." (The moms on the street). I said "If all the other moms were jumping off a cliff would you jump too?" Of course, he said "Yes! With an innertube yelling YAHOO!"
I told him that I didn't care what the other parents on the street were doing that we need to do what is best for our children. He said "but I only get to see them so little".
Which I would have bought as an excuse - except for --- Sunday night he shipped Holly off to my in-laws house for the night. So he only had our son (the oldest - and easiest) and Ivy (the one who believes her daddy can do no wrong).
This is the bozo who is suing me for custody of the kids. He can't even bring himself to put them to bed at a decent hour if the other kids in the neighborhood are still up.
OH!!!! And before I forget.
When the kids came home on Monday - Holly's clothes were disgusting. The knees and the seat of her pink pants were dark gray they were so filthy. Ivy however, she came home wearing one of my sons t-shirts as a dress and instead of her school shoes she wore winter boots - that may fit her next winter. He said he'd go find her shoes and bring them because I told him she needed them for school. He never called or came around with them. Let alone their clothes.
Ok - you know what's coming.
But first - Friday night. 11:38 - I'm in bed already...and the phone rings. It's Dallas and Holly. Holly is bawling her eyes out saying "I want to come home, Daddy is mean!" And Dallas wanted me to come get her. I told him - "If I come to get Holly I am taking them all"
He told me we don't live in a gestapo - in other words, the visitation order doesn't have to be followed exactly. Yeah - thats true. It doesn't. But on the points where we both don't agree to deviate - then yeah, it's law.
So, Holly stayed.
Saturday was uneventful and I didn't call because I didn't want to upset their visit in any way.
Sunday I expected to see the kids at church. Afterall, it was Teen Takeover Day - in other words the teens (our sons age) were taking over the responsibilities at church. Also, all 3 kids wanted to see Todd Bennick - motorcross guy - jump over our pastor standing on a bus. Scarey. Cool. Not to mention - last week Dallas complained when the girls didn't have church clothes - this time they had them. So I was saddened when I realized the kids weren't at church.
When I got home I called Dallas to find out who was sick. I was told "I kept telling them to go to bed last night if they wanted to go to church in the morning, but they just wanted to play outside with their friends" How late? After midnight. Why? "Well, Sandy, Paula and Debbie were letting their kids stay out so they wanted to too." (The moms on the street). I said "If all the other moms were jumping off a cliff would you jump too?" Of course, he said "Yes! With an innertube yelling YAHOO!"
I told him that I didn't care what the other parents on the street were doing that we need to do what is best for our children. He said "but I only get to see them so little".
Which I would have bought as an excuse - except for --- Sunday night he shipped Holly off to my in-laws house for the night. So he only had our son (the oldest - and easiest) and Ivy (the one who believes her daddy can do no wrong).
This is the bozo who is suing me for custody of the kids. He can't even bring himself to put them to bed at a decent hour if the other kids in the neighborhood are still up.
OH!!!! And before I forget.
When the kids came home on Monday - Holly's clothes were disgusting. The knees and the seat of her pink pants were dark gray they were so filthy. Ivy however, she came home wearing one of my sons t-shirts as a dress and instead of her school shoes she wore winter boots - that may fit her next winter. He said he'd go find her shoes and bring them because I told him she needed them for school. He never called or came around with them. Let alone their clothes.
Thursday, September 2, 2010
Lions and Tigers and Bedbugs...Oh MY!
Welcome back to the ongoing saga of my divorce. In todays episode you find our heroine listening to yet another phone message left by her STBFS Dallas. "I found a bedbug when I was cleaning out the garage. You know what that means? It means it came from your stuff in the basement that you had in storage and that it's been crawling all these months and just made it to the garage...we're infested."
"I got Terminex out here and they say it'll be $800 - so you can either pay your half or I just won't be obligated to pay child support for while" (remember child support got lowered to $150 a month.
Now there are a couple of things wrong with this scenerio. First, I don't live there. I'm not obligated to pay squat for any of the upkeep. Second, my husband used to work for Terminex and I know he has buddies that still work there - who would come in and say anything Dallas wanted them to. and Third, my STBFS has his own pest control business. It's his JOB to get rid of bugs. Sure he said the company went bellyup - but unless he sold all his stuff (he hasn't - he is STILL doing pest control - our son tells me) then he has the equipment necessary.
Dallas still hasn't paid a dime in support. Although he brought over cans of microwave chef boyardee. 6 of them. That is the way he thinks he can justify himself. Only thing is - even my least picky eater - hates it.
Oh - back to the bedbug conversation...
He called and I answered - he said "What should we do about these bedbugs?" I said "Gee, I don't know, but it's pretty gross that you move in your old girlfriend and all of a sudden you have bedbugs. They probably came in on her" - Then - childishly, I hung up...convulsing in giggles.
He called another time later and we talked about him getting the kids. He decided to forgo his parental time last night because he didn't want to take the kids home where the infestation (of 1 found bedbug - ONE!) was. It didn't even occur to him to take them to the park, or the library, or McDonalds. And I didn't tell him either. It was just his excuse not to come get them.
Then before he hung up he said "Would you get online and look up bedbugs and..." This time I cut him off and said "That is something a wife would do for you - why don't you ask Rhonda to do it?" Again I hung up before he could answer.
He just isn't getting it.
"I got Terminex out here and they say it'll be $800 - so you can either pay your half or I just won't be obligated to pay child support for while" (remember child support got lowered to $150 a month.
Now there are a couple of things wrong with this scenerio. First, I don't live there. I'm not obligated to pay squat for any of the upkeep. Second, my husband used to work for Terminex and I know he has buddies that still work there - who would come in and say anything Dallas wanted them to. and Third, my STBFS has his own pest control business. It's his JOB to get rid of bugs. Sure he said the company went bellyup - but unless he sold all his stuff (he hasn't - he is STILL doing pest control - our son tells me) then he has the equipment necessary.
Dallas still hasn't paid a dime in support. Although he brought over cans of microwave chef boyardee. 6 of them. That is the way he thinks he can justify himself. Only thing is - even my least picky eater - hates it.
Oh - back to the bedbug conversation...
He called and I answered - he said "What should we do about these bedbugs?" I said "Gee, I don't know, but it's pretty gross that you move in your old girlfriend and all of a sudden you have bedbugs. They probably came in on her" - Then - childishly, I hung up...convulsing in giggles.
He called another time later and we talked about him getting the kids. He decided to forgo his parental time last night because he didn't want to take the kids home where the infestation (of 1 found bedbug - ONE!) was. It didn't even occur to him to take them to the park, or the library, or McDonalds. And I didn't tell him either. It was just his excuse not to come get them.
Then before he hung up he said "Would you get online and look up bedbugs and..." This time I cut him off and said "That is something a wife would do for you - why don't you ask Rhonda to do it?" Again I hung up before he could answer.
He just isn't getting it.
Tuesday, August 31, 2010
Filed for divorce in Feb...
...and he still hasn't paid child support.
When I kicked him out for being drunk almost 2 yrs ago - he quit his job - to start his own company. He was ordered to pay support based on the amount of money he USED to make. Well - he took me to court to say "My business went belly-up". Only his lawyer said it. He never showed up to court that day. He is living in our house with his new girlfriend. Actually - she is his highschool girlfriend.
I went over one night - her truck was parked in the driveway so I parked behind her and went in. The front door was locked by the storm door - so I went around to the back door, which was unlocked. They were in the bedroom. I walked in and she walked into my master bath - with the light off.
I took that opportunity to look thru her purse which was open on the floor while jr begged me to leave. As if I hadn't seen her yet! Duh!!!
So...I walked into the bathroom, flipped on the light and said "What are you doing in the dark...IN MY SHIRT?!!"
To be honest, her being in my shirt got a bigger reaction from me than her living there. Which of course she denied. She also denied having sex with him at all - this is while she crawled to the middle of my king sized bed and sat cross legged. UH - HELLO! You are sitting on MY bed as if you own it??? but I should believe you aren't sleeping with my STBFS?
Then - get this - while I was walking out, I was in the kitchen and I asked Dallas for the griddle and do you know what he said to me??? He told me he loved me and wanted me to come home.
Remarkable.
Anyway, Dallas was supposed to pay $600 a month child support and $1010 a month spousal support. (This is where "cheaper to keep her" came to be)
His lawyer - his HIGH PRICE lawyer went to court and said that Dallas had no income - and the magistrate lowered his payment to ZERO spousal support and only $150 a month for 3 kids. That doesn't even feed 3 kids in a month.
When I kicked him out for being drunk almost 2 yrs ago - he quit his job - to start his own company. He was ordered to pay support based on the amount of money he USED to make. Well - he took me to court to say "My business went belly-up". Only his lawyer said it. He never showed up to court that day. He is living in our house with his new girlfriend. Actually - she is his highschool girlfriend.
I went over one night - her truck was parked in the driveway so I parked behind her and went in. The front door was locked by the storm door - so I went around to the back door, which was unlocked. They were in the bedroom. I walked in and she walked into my master bath - with the light off.
I took that opportunity to look thru her purse which was open on the floor while jr begged me to leave. As if I hadn't seen her yet! Duh!!!
So...I walked into the bathroom, flipped on the light and said "What are you doing in the dark...IN MY SHIRT?!!"
To be honest, her being in my shirt got a bigger reaction from me than her living there. Which of course she denied. She also denied having sex with him at all - this is while she crawled to the middle of my king sized bed and sat cross legged. UH - HELLO! You are sitting on MY bed as if you own it??? but I should believe you aren't sleeping with my STBFS?
Then - get this - while I was walking out, I was in the kitchen and I asked Dallas for the griddle and do you know what he said to me??? He told me he loved me and wanted me to come home.
Remarkable.
Anyway, Dallas was supposed to pay $600 a month child support and $1010 a month spousal support. (This is where "cheaper to keep her" came to be)
His lawyer - his HIGH PRICE lawyer went to court and said that Dallas had no income - and the magistrate lowered his payment to ZERO spousal support and only $150 a month for 3 kids. That doesn't even feed 3 kids in a month.
Thursday, August 5, 2010
Harder Than I Thought
Writing this blog is harder than I thought. I thought it would be cathartic and therapeutic for me. However, I am so discouraged by the dirty tricks my husband and his family are pulling that I haven't had the heart.
Let me catch you up to speed.
My STBFS has visitation with the kids each Wed. night from 6-9. Last week, he kept them overnight. I kept telling him to bring them home - because starting at 9:25 he called about 5 times. First to ask if they could stay. I said NO. Then to tell me that HIS lawyer told him he could keep them if he wanted. And that he wanted. He kept them until 8 pm the next night.
Last night as he was picking them up he told me flat out that he was keeping them overnight. But I didn't want to be the one going against the court order so I let them go...
Let me catch you up to speed.
My STBFS has visitation with the kids each Wed. night from 6-9. Last week, he kept them overnight. I kept telling him to bring them home - because starting at 9:25 he called about 5 times. First to ask if they could stay. I said NO. Then to tell me that HIS lawyer told him he could keep them if he wanted. And that he wanted. He kept them until 8 pm the next night.
Last night as he was picking them up he told me flat out that he was keeping them overnight. But I didn't want to be the one going against the court order so I let them go...
Tuesday, July 6, 2010
He wants custody of the kids...
...but the visitation schedule is already too much for him and he hasn't even had his first visit.
My husband is challenging me as a fit mom (I have taught them at home since birth) based on...well, nothing. Anyway, I have won temporary sole custody of our three kids. Once I got the notice I called and tried to arrange for his first visit. He is supposed to get them every Wed. night from 6-9. I offered to let him have them overnight.
Today he called and said he just now got the schedule in the mail. (Not my fault he doesn't check his mailbox) And that he couldn't possibly take them this Wed. (tomorrow) could he have them tonight? Uh, no. I need more notice than a few hours, thank you. How about Thurs? Sorry, our son has a Constitution class that has already been paid for - he goes every Thurs night for 12 weeks.
And kids schedules have priority over all else.
So...I'll have them ready tomorrow night - just in case he shows up for them - if they aren't ready when he is supposed to have them - I could be held in contempt of court. I do not contempt the court... :)
What kills me - is he wants custody -he complains he never gets to see them...and when the opportunity shows itself, he can't arrange it.
My husband is challenging me as a fit mom (I have taught them at home since birth) based on...well, nothing. Anyway, I have won temporary sole custody of our three kids. Once I got the notice I called and tried to arrange for his first visit. He is supposed to get them every Wed. night from 6-9. I offered to let him have them overnight.
Today he called and said he just now got the schedule in the mail. (Not my fault he doesn't check his mailbox) And that he couldn't possibly take them this Wed. (tomorrow) could he have them tonight? Uh, no. I need more notice than a few hours, thank you. How about Thurs? Sorry, our son has a Constitution class that has already been paid for - he goes every Thurs night for 12 weeks.
And kids schedules have priority over all else.
So...I'll have them ready tomorrow night - just in case he shows up for them - if they aren't ready when he is supposed to have them - I could be held in contempt of court. I do not contempt the court... :)
What kills me - is he wants custody -he complains he never gets to see them...and when the opportunity shows itself, he can't arrange it.
Monday, July 5, 2010
...
The next day - after he called the cops on me for no reason, I brought my mom with me to the house to get more of my stuff - and more of the kids things. He wasn't home at first. When he came home - he was normal again, just like he was on Monday. He was normal before he even knew my mom was there helping me. Which makes me further believe that he must have been high on Tuesday to call the cops like he did.
Anyway, my mom gave her a piece of her mind. And if you knew my mom you would know that she did it respectfully and almost gently...all the while I kept packing up my things. Dallas even helped me carry things out to the car with my Mom watching.
Wednesday, I got the court order - I have temporary custody of the kids - and Dallas gets to have visitation rights. Which means every Wed from 6-9 the kids are his - and every other weekend. I told him we can be flexible. Then - get this, he asked if he and I get a date night together.
NO.
Why not?
Are you kidding? You called the cops on me for no reason.
Lets put the past behind us.
You are counter suing me for divorce - even if I dropped it we are still getting divorced.
I only did that because my lawyer told me to...
*click*
Anyway, my mom gave her a piece of her mind. And if you knew my mom you would know that she did it respectfully and almost gently...all the while I kept packing up my things. Dallas even helped me carry things out to the car with my Mom watching.
Wednesday, I got the court order - I have temporary custody of the kids - and Dallas gets to have visitation rights. Which means every Wed from 6-9 the kids are his - and every other weekend. I told him we can be flexible. Then - get this, he asked if he and I get a date night together.
NO.
Why not?
Are you kidding? You called the cops on me for no reason.
Lets put the past behind us.
You are counter suing me for divorce - even if I dropped it we are still getting divorced.
I only did that because my lawyer told me to...
*click*
Tuesday, June 29, 2010
Alot has been going on...
Yesterday I went to my house and jr was there. We talked. I took some stuff home...he video taped it all. He told me that the cops had just left. I asked why - he said to report what all I had done to the house. (I took stuff to moms on Sunday - while we're camping there). When I went to the master bathroom - he had pulled out a bunch of stuff from his closet and just trashed his bathroom.
But - we talked. He talked and talked and talked - but never said anything truthful. I said "I'm not taping us - you can tell the truth." but he never did.
So - today I show up to get stuff out of the bedroom. He was talking with someone in there quietly. He wouldn't open the bedroom door. I was calm - knocking asking to be let inside. HE CALLED THE COPS ON ME!!!
So I left the house to wait on the officer. I am sooo glad it was a different officer. This one didnt know my STBFS by name. This one acted human. This one treated me with respect.
But jr told the cop that he was fearful of me and I should have called to let him know I was coming. Sigh. I would go on about all of it...but I'm tired of thinking about it.
Suffice it to say, I told him I'd be home tonight. And tomorrow...and the next day...and the next and he could just expect me from then on.
But - we talked. He talked and talked and talked - but never said anything truthful. I said "I'm not taping us - you can tell the truth." but he never did.
So - today I show up to get stuff out of the bedroom. He was talking with someone in there quietly. He wouldn't open the bedroom door. I was calm - knocking asking to be let inside. HE CALLED THE COPS ON ME!!!
So I left the house to wait on the officer. I am sooo glad it was a different officer. This one didnt know my STBFS by name. This one acted human. This one treated me with respect.
But jr told the cop that he was fearful of me and I should have called to let him know I was coming. Sigh. I would go on about all of it...but I'm tired of thinking about it.
Suffice it to say, I told him I'd be home tonight. And tomorrow...and the next day...and the next and he could just expect me from then on.
Friday, June 25, 2010
Got a Visit from My Father In Law Today
Well, took the car to the shop. The same shop that fixed it last time - for the same problem. Of course, it wasn't THEIR fault...anyway, was coming home in a bad mood after hearing that I would need to pay $600 more....when what do I see as I turn the corner on my street?
My Father in Law walking up my driveway. I wasn't in the right mood to start with I really didn't need this...
So, I pull in the driveway and he comes back down from the front door.
He says "Anyway I can get my stuff and we forget this lawsuit?"
I said "That junk is under a restraining order"
We went back and forth - him saying it was his stuff and my rebutting with 'then why has it been in my garage for 5 yrs? (we've only lived here 5 yrs - we've had most of what he CLAIMS is all his for ages before that).
It ended with my telling him to leave before I had to call the police. So he left.
I have a message on my machine from Dallas saying "Sorry, I didn't think that all would happen. I just thought you might be out garage saling and our son would be home alone for Dad to talk to..."
As if THAT would have been ok with me.
and on that message - you can hear my FIL in the background getting his attention - to not say things like that.
BIG SIGH!
My Father in Law walking up my driveway. I wasn't in the right mood to start with I really didn't need this...
So, I pull in the driveway and he comes back down from the front door.
He says "Anyway I can get my stuff and we forget this lawsuit?"
I said "That junk is under a restraining order"
We went back and forth - him saying it was his stuff and my rebutting with 'then why has it been in my garage for 5 yrs? (we've only lived here 5 yrs - we've had most of what he CLAIMS is all his for ages before that).
It ended with my telling him to leave before I had to call the police. So he left.
I have a message on my machine from Dallas saying "Sorry, I didn't think that all would happen. I just thought you might be out garage saling and our son would be home alone for Dad to talk to..."
As if THAT would have been ok with me.
and on that message - you can hear my FIL in the background getting his attention - to not say things like that.
BIG SIGH!
Thursday, June 24, 2010
Today has been one of those days. Busy, picking up the kids that spent the night at their cousins house after Vacation Bible School, waiting around to pick up the one kid that went to Sports camp, run home, make/eat lunch, put the youngest to bed because she obviously didn't get enough sleep, then back to the final night of VBS, then to the library to drop off books.
While waiting for Sports camp to be over my STBFS called and accused me of going out last night since I had no kids. SIGH. It was nice having the house to myself but I was home by 10:30. I didn't tell him that - I also didn't tell him it was none of his business.
We finally got home to stay at almost 10 pm. But my youngest wanted to call her dad to let him know that she had lost a tooth. I dial the number hoping he won't want to speak to me. They talk - and she is answering questions right and left about where she was last night.
Then my oldest got on the phone and he started answering rapidfire questions. Wanting to know where I was last night.
My STBFS and his family are up to something. Some new evil legal thing is being plotted against me all because I don't want to be married to an abusive alcoholic.
While waiting for Sports camp to be over my STBFS called and accused me of going out last night since I had no kids. SIGH. It was nice having the house to myself but I was home by 10:30. I didn't tell him that - I also didn't tell him it was none of his business.
We finally got home to stay at almost 10 pm. But my youngest wanted to call her dad to let him know that she had lost a tooth. I dial the number hoping he won't want to speak to me. They talk - and she is answering questions right and left about where she was last night.
Then my oldest got on the phone and he started answering rapidfire questions. Wanting to know where I was last night.
My STBFS and his family are up to something. Some new evil legal thing is being plotted against me all because I don't want to be married to an abusive alcoholic.
Yesterday was a looooonnnnggg day...
I was busy with the kids all day and didn't get to tell you the news. So, depending on my STBFS I may just have a second posting today. But without further ado - let me tell you the news from yesterday.
Yesterday my Mom lets me know that there is a message on her answering machine telling her that I had demanded the foodstamp card (the one he has been using to feed himself and his wealthy parents - instead of his children) but that he won't give it to me because 'she is bad at handling money'. Which is a lie. When I was in charge of paying the bills around here - we NEVER had the lights or water shut off - he cannot say the same thing when he took it over. As a matter of fact - 3 times water shut off, 1 time lights shut off - and about 6 more times for the lights it came down to the wire of him running out and paying them hours before shut off.
Now - guess who is writing his bills for him. Go ahead guess. He is under an order that would hold him in contempt if he doesn't pay...so guess....Thats right! His Mommy! She uses his account - and pays them all.
Yesterday my Mom lets me know that there is a message on her answering machine telling her that I had demanded the foodstamp card (the one he has been using to feed himself and his wealthy parents - instead of his children) but that he won't give it to me because 'she is bad at handling money'. Which is a lie. When I was in charge of paying the bills around here - we NEVER had the lights or water shut off - he cannot say the same thing when he took it over. As a matter of fact - 3 times water shut off, 1 time lights shut off - and about 6 more times for the lights it came down to the wire of him running out and paying them hours before shut off.
Now - guess who is writing his bills for him. Go ahead guess. He is under an order that would hold him in contempt if he doesn't pay...so guess....Thats right! His Mommy! She uses his account - and pays them all.
Tuesday, June 22, 2010
My FIL IS Suing Me - I got the paperwork
Ok...a few weeks back my FIL decided he needed to get here and get all of his sons 'assets' he could so he called wanting "HIS" woodchipper and lawnmower. Well, these 2 items have been in my garage for a LLLLOOONNNNGGGG time. The lawnmower -since we moved in and the woodchipper for at least 2 yrs. So I have serious doubts that they are his - and there is a restraining order on Dallas to not remove anything from the house. So, I had to refuse.
Flashback to when Dallas and I were dating - a girl came forward claiming her child was his - looked about right - right down to the cleft in her chin. And my FIL and Dallas started the process of moving his assets around...when the paperwork came back that she wasn't his.
Flashback again to when my FIL was sued for sleeping with a subordinate
http://www.enquirer.com/editions/2004/10/07/loc_loc1a1powers.html
he told me - while denying the truth of the case - that THAT is why his house and all his assets were in his wife's name - so that he couldn't lose any of it...
Ok - back to the present. The paperwork says that things in my garage (that have been growing mold) are HIS. The woodchipper, both lawnmowers, various (read-ALL) powertools and hand tools, and refridgerator are all his. And that since I denied him of his possessions his business has lost money. He owns rental properties!!!! He owns lawnmowers to mow them!!! The trees on the properties I can count on 1 hand - and are too small to need a chipper!!! The refridgerator in the garage was bought when we lived in Kettering - and they didn't want to move upstairs (plus my soon to be former spouse) wanted a place to keep beer cold in the garage. AND as I said - it is growing mold!!! My STBFS unplugged it during one of those times he was trying to convince me he was going sober...but left something in the freezer. You open it - it smells of death or at least something that would kill you.
So - he came up with $6200. He wants the return of all these things (which aren't his) AND the money.
Talk about vindictive...
Flashback to when Dallas and I were dating - a girl came forward claiming her child was his - looked about right - right down to the cleft in her chin. And my FIL and Dallas started the process of moving his assets around...when the paperwork came back that she wasn't his.
Flashback again to when my FIL was sued for sleeping with a subordinate
http://www.enquirer.com/editions/2004/10/07/loc_loc1a1powers.html
he told me - while denying the truth of the case - that THAT is why his house and all his assets were in his wife's name - so that he couldn't lose any of it...
Ok - back to the present. The paperwork says that things in my garage (that have been growing mold) are HIS. The woodchipper, both lawnmowers, various (read-ALL) powertools and hand tools, and refridgerator are all his. And that since I denied him of his possessions his business has lost money. He owns rental properties!!!! He owns lawnmowers to mow them!!! The trees on the properties I can count on 1 hand - and are too small to need a chipper!!! The refridgerator in the garage was bought when we lived in Kettering - and they didn't want to move upstairs (plus my soon to be former spouse) wanted a place to keep beer cold in the garage. AND as I said - it is growing mold!!! My STBFS unplugged it during one of those times he was trying to convince me he was going sober...but left something in the freezer. You open it - it smells of death or at least something that would kill you.
So - he came up with $6200. He wants the return of all these things (which aren't his) AND the money.
Talk about vindictive...
Monday, June 21, 2010
Let's Make a Deal!
Popular game show from days gone by? or game my soon to be former spouse and his family want to play now?
Yep, you guessed it. They are wanting to make a deal. However, it isn't one that is in my favor. I didn't get all the details because I am unwilling to negotiate with terrorists - oops I mean, the people who treat me like I'm the enemy just because I no longer want to associate myself with them.
I am pretty sure it comes down to A. Dallas seeing the kids - which lends to him taking the kids and keeping them in exchange for B. my getting the foodstamp card - but my FIL still suing me for the crap thats been in my garage for going on 2 yrs, which may or may not be my STBFS (Soon to be former spouse).
So...NO Deal!!! I'll keep opening cases Howie.
Yep, you guessed it. They are wanting to make a deal. However, it isn't one that is in my favor. I didn't get all the details because I am unwilling to negotiate with terrorists - oops I mean, the people who treat me like I'm the enemy just because I no longer want to associate myself with them.
I am pretty sure it comes down to A. Dallas seeing the kids - which lends to him taking the kids and keeping them in exchange for B. my getting the foodstamp card - but my FIL still suing me for the crap thats been in my garage for going on 2 yrs, which may or may not be my STBFS (Soon to be former spouse).
So...NO Deal!!! I'll keep opening cases Howie.
Sunday, June 20, 2010
Father's Day
Ok - first off, it was my every hope that Dallas would take the kids this weekend and have a good bonding time with them. Then his dad filed a lawsuit against me and I called my lawyers office and they told me that since they (my soon to be former spouse and his family) are starting in with playing dirty - that I should be extra cautious. My inlaws have properties in other states and while Dallas and I both have equal custody - they could hightail it out of town and I won't have much of any recourse.
So...this is the 2nd Father's Day in a row that I've denied Dallas access to the kids.
But - I had the kids call him first thing this morning. He asked to talk to me - so I got on the phone. I forget what made me bring it up but I informed him that I had to buy Dallas III a new pair of jeans yesterday. He told me that I should have had him buy them when he bought groceries from Meijer (a super store like Walmart) when he spent $300. Well - 1. the groceries came to $242.xx not $300 - so lets keep our facts straight and 2. He used a foodstamp GC that brought his out of pocket total down to $101.50.
So, I got mad. I got incensed. I told him that I wanted that foodstamp card, that it was wrong for him to have it since he applied for it while we've not lived together...but he used us as his feeding his family of 5. I told him that if I don't get it I will go downtown and apply for my own foodstamp card - and when they tell me that I am already in their system I will explain in detail how Dallas has frauded their system and only once has our children benefited from it in all the months he has had the card.
Instead - he buys groceries for himself and his parents - who are millionaires. Nice, huh?
Writing it out here I'm getting a little ticked off again. What he has done is so wrong. My parents have fed us week after week - while he has the government feeding him and his wealthy parents. It absolutely makes me sick.
So...this is the 2nd Father's Day in a row that I've denied Dallas access to the kids.
But - I had the kids call him first thing this morning. He asked to talk to me - so I got on the phone. I forget what made me bring it up but I informed him that I had to buy Dallas III a new pair of jeans yesterday. He told me that I should have had him buy them when he bought groceries from Meijer (a super store like Walmart) when he spent $300. Well - 1. the groceries came to $242.xx not $300 - so lets keep our facts straight and 2. He used a foodstamp GC that brought his out of pocket total down to $101.50.
So, I got mad. I got incensed. I told him that I wanted that foodstamp card, that it was wrong for him to have it since he applied for it while we've not lived together...but he used us as his feeding his family of 5. I told him that if I don't get it I will go downtown and apply for my own foodstamp card - and when they tell me that I am already in their system I will explain in detail how Dallas has frauded their system and only once has our children benefited from it in all the months he has had the card.
Instead - he buys groceries for himself and his parents - who are millionaires. Nice, huh?
Writing it out here I'm getting a little ticked off again. What he has done is so wrong. My parents have fed us week after week - while he has the government feeding him and his wealthy parents. It absolutely makes me sick.
Saturday, June 19, 2010
I'm Going thru the Big D from a guy named Dallas...
My name is Evelyn. I'm a typical housewife, I guess. In a typical (I guess) marriage. We have 3 great kids. A son who is 13, and daughters who are 7 and 6. My husband is Dallas. Dallas can charm your socks off. He can convince an artic explorer he needs an air conditioning unit. You'd think with that kind of talent - he'd sell cars or something where the commission would be high. You'd be wrong. You see, Dallas likes to wake up in the morning and have a beer. Then another and another. In a typical day Dallas will drink at least a 6 pack - sometimes alot more - but usually about 8 beers before he crashes into bed. Dallas is a high functioning drunk. Most people have no idea what he does. He drinks and drives and in the past 5 yrs has only been pulled over once for weaving. That time he refused a breath alyzer (sp) test and spent the night in jail. That was on the advice of his dad - attorney and disgraced judge Dallas Sr. - who has told him to never blow if he is pulled over...never leave a mark if you hit your wife...and if you are going to cheat on your wife - be sure to do it at least 30 miles away.
I bet you are wondering why I want to leave this family? LOL.
We have been married 13 yrs now. For 13 yrs I have been controlled. Controlled by not having my own way of earning money. By not having my name on any accounts. By not having my own car - etc.
I filed for divorce less than a month ago - (we've lived apart now for over a year) - ready to go on this journey with me? Drama by drama - detailing each saga for your amusement and hopefully edification...
I bet you are wondering why I want to leave this family? LOL.
We have been married 13 yrs now. For 13 yrs I have been controlled. Controlled by not having my own way of earning money. By not having my name on any accounts. By not having my own car - etc.
I filed for divorce less than a month ago - (we've lived apart now for over a year) - ready to go on this journey with me? Drama by drama - detailing each saga for your amusement and hopefully edification...
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